Whenever anyone asks me ‘How are you?’ I always respond with, ‘Amazing!’ – my friends are used to this, but whenever I respond in this way to someone I have never met before, it always makes them giggle. I had a conversation with a friend today about the limiting beliefs that we can have around the word ‘amazing’ with some very interesting results that I want to share with you.
This morning I told my friend that I was ‘Amazing’ and he suggested that I was not ‘Amazing’ but that I was ‘good’ or at best ‘very good’. My friend then went on to explain that no one is ‘Amazing’ and it is his belief that if we say that someone is ‘Amazing’ then this elevates one person over another (which, in reality, is probably more of an indication of how my friend feels about himself). However, I believe that we are all amazing in our own unique way.
It is far to easy to get caught up in the ‘humdrum’ of life, in the routine of life – wake up, get the kids ready, breakfast, work, meetings, home, after school activities, food, bed (or some other such similar daily processes), we start to become a ‘human doing’ as opposed to a ‘human being’.
We like distraction though don’t we? Distraction stops us from coming face to face with ourselves. Have you ever just stopped, just paused for a moment to do what you were created to do, to just ‘be’? The chances are that you have not done this for some time because when you stop you are confronted with yourself. When we are confronted with ourselves we are confronted by the fears of who and what we are – am I a good enough parent? Am I a good enough partner? Do I manage my life well enough? Am I too proud, tough, unloving? And the rest of it. It is easy, in life, to focus on our negatives than to take a good look at how amazing we are.
Sure, you get things wrong, we all do, we are ‘human’. But, take a second to think of how amazing you are – look at the way that you have brought up your children, look at the way that you have battled through some pretty tough times in your life, look at the way that you look after people, selflessly, look at the way that people look up to you, respect you, want to be around you. Look at the way that you make people smile. Go on, admit it, you are pretty damn amazing!
It is all too easy to take on board the negative voices of those around us, ‘you are an idiot’, ‘you will never be anything in life’, ‘you’re a looser’, ‘you’re ugly’, than the deep inner voice of our own. I want you to grab a pen and piece of paper and write down all the ways in which you are amazing. If you struggle to start writing the list write down the following, just to get going:
“I am X old and you get up every morning and face life”
“I have X beautiful children”
“I have managed to work x years as an x”
“I have never gone bankrupt”
But I want you to write it it as if you are writing it to yourself, in a personal way. Here is my example:
Mark, you are 33 years old and you get up every morning and face life – you’re amazing.
Mark, you have set up many creative business ideas – you’re amazing.
Mark, despite, at times, finances have been tough you have never gone bankrupt – you’re amazing.
Keep writing your list, keep it personal to you – your relationships, your job, your life, the things that you do – be honest with yourself, honest about how amazing you are. When you start to write this list, your list, about how amazing you are you will start feeling good about yourself.
Keep this list with you, read it every day, read this list when you are feeling down, read this list when others make you feel bad. Let your knowledge of how amazing you are be the loudest voice in your head, heart, mind and life.
I can’t express enough exactly just how amazing you are, you’re amazing-ness is beyond words, because you are literally THAT amazing. When you start to realise just how amazing you are you will develop a new confidence, you will have a new bounce in your step and you will take on life in a whole new way. Enjoy it!
And remember, whenever you go about your day and someone else is starting to annoy you, when you start to focus on just how annoying they are, stop. This ‘annoying person’ is actually amazing too. Whenever you start a conversation in your head about how annoying someone is, how you would like them to shut up, how they piss you off, stop yourself and start a new internal conversation about this person “X is amazing because…”
When you focus on your amazing-ness and the amazing-ness in the people that you encounter every day your mind will be open to how incredible both the world is and the people in it. An open positive mind creates exciting new opportunities which will be the beginning of your life change.
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